Elfin Bee's night night thoughts

‘Live with passion, give with compassion’:a precious old diary reminder on how to treat people January 16, 2009

I was walking home as usual, thinking about how I was unhappy yesterday about feeling exploited.  When I returned home, I went to pick up my old diary post about life that I have jotted in some 5 years ago; after listening to an interesting talk by a monastory monk by the name of Jingkong Fashi. He  had given a very thoughtful piece of advice on life; and even to a non-budhist like me, I thought it was worth the time to arrange the notes he made.  Basically he presented his thoughts concisely  in a very learned and educated piece of advice on how to treat human relationships :

‘never to feel upset or angry;

 never lament, never fight; forgive and forget.

use your intelligence and your wisdom;

do not hold on too much;

success and happiness depends on one’s capabilities.’

This piece of entry in my diary reminded me why I have gotten this far despite the obstacles. In life, there are bound to be people  who would upset me. The very reason for being upset is because of the emotional attachment that is involved. I shouldn’t have  even felt angry.  Be positively motivated yes, but not angry.  The reason why I had been so willing to help, listen and render advise was because I saw that as a way to elminate misery and pain of the people involved. It shouldn’t  have mattered the slightest bit about feeling betrayed; for if the person was such, s/he would usually repeat their own life woes after s/he leaves you. 

Why would that be so ? Because people who betray don’t learn the right path towards a happy and peaceful life; and people who fail to learn the art of giving and compassion never move on.  A person who understands the intriccies of peace and happiness, would usually know how to appreciate and thus their happiness will recipocrate. Thus is the way of a peaceful life  that is truly sustainable to the human race. It does take time and wisdom to understand this.  Make sense ?

At least to me, it is.