Life = romancing with my lifetime partner of sorts. May 19, 2009
Posted by Karen in human relationships, life, simple philosophy on life, world problems.Tags: humanity, life, love
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Not so funny today but I must admit I am a blog maniac, partial twitter addict and a design monstress, a bookaholic, a facebookaholic and a constant day dreamer who talks very little and writes and works a heap. Probably thinking 90% of the time, nosing into obersations of people and things that are swimming around me. I cannot stop to think why life has to go on this crazy and why are we so complicated ? While all these adorable questions floating around my cute head, I do not deny the fact that I keep on banging on it to remind myself what life is. And how much I desire to lead a happy life. I live in a city state and needless to say money is important no matter how much I want to stay in my area of interest. I need to pay bills. So I need to learn the art of money making. I probably was born in the wrong place. But if I could have it, I would very much prefer to live in the countryside where I build my happy house with little animals and beautiful flora with me. Well, obviously I am just dreaming on. My parents live here and my relatives live here. But I really believe that determination and aspirations could see me through. I may come up something very novel to live on or to live by. I could just jolly well create my own life that could be just as good as living in the mountain of paradise.
So what defines a happy life ? To a whole lot of people, especially those who live in the city, money and power are the most important. It is sad that students these days are thinking nothing but these areas, which is so wrong. Society and their own family has taught them that life is a wretched jungle of great pragmaticism. And to be successful in life, you need to be ruthless and hypocritical. If everyone were to live by those standards, we don’t need natural disasters to destroy us. We simply need our own lack of heart to kill us all before the next great meterorite finishes us all.
I believe my elfin litle life is about learning how to love. It need not be the boy-girl relationship type of love. It could be the love for nature, your family, siblings and parents. It could just be a pure love for people or any living beings who need your help and care. Anyone who fails to understand this basic need to learn how to love and show empathy is an empty soul by heart in the saddest case. With such cunning and sly mind at heart, the invidividual and society as a whole cannot possibly be a happy and sustainable one.
For this material world, it is incredibly difficult to find very nice people. And I cannot judge people by my standards. I can only take them as they are and try my best to see them from the best angle.
To live a life with deceit and fear is a sad one. And I believe that most people are acting in defense. I have been thinking about how I should treat people. Sometimes being deceived is an extremely angry feeling. But then again, to live life angry and always on the defense decreases your quality of life. It basically drains you. You might as well take it easy and discard any kind of defense.
Why block your life out in fear and anger when you could just simplify your life with kindness and purity ? If we could pay more time in thinking how a relationship (between people at work, at play or in any kind of relationship) it is not hard to find that the common demoninator to almost all of the problems existing in the world, ever since the start of human civilisation, has always been a lack of simplicity. Just love for love’s sake for a healthier and much more meaningful life. Do not cheat but to say what you think in the most respectful manner possible. Simply be yourself and let your heart fill with love and care; and life will take very good care of you.
PS: Would you agree with my elfin thoughts ? It may be somewhat childish, but it works for me. Romancing away with my ideals of life — my lifetime partner of sorts…
‘Live with passion, give with compassion’:a precious old diary reminder on how to treat people January 16, 2009
Posted by Karen in happy culture, human relationships.Tags: human relationships, Jingkong Fashi, philosophy
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I was walking home as usual, thinking about how I was unhappy yesterday about feeling exploited. When I returned home, I went to pick up my old diary post about life that I have jotted in some 5 years ago; after listening to an interesting talk by a monastory monk by the name of Jingkong Fashi. He had given a very thoughtful piece of advice on life; and even to a non-budhist like me, I thought it was worth the time to arrange the notes he made. Basically he presented his thoughts concisely in a very learned and educated piece of advice on how to treat human relationships :
‘never to feel upset or angry;
never lament, never fight; forgive and forget.
use your intelligence and your wisdom;
do not hold on too much;
success and happiness depends on one’s capabilities.’
This piece of entry in my diary reminded me why I have gotten this far despite the obstacles. In life, there are bound to be people who would upset me. The very reason for being upset is because of the emotional attachment that is involved. I shouldn’t have even felt angry. Be positively motivated yes, but not angry. The reason why I had been so willing to help, listen and render advise was because I saw that as a way to elminate misery and pain of the people involved. It shouldn’t have mattered the slightest bit about feeling betrayed; for if the person was such, s/he would usually repeat their own life woes after s/he leaves you.
Why would that be so ? Because people who betray don’t learn the right path towards a happy and peaceful life; and people who fail to learn the art of giving and compassion never move on. A person who understands the intriccies of peace and happiness, would usually know how to appreciate and thus their happiness will recipocrate. Thus is the way of a peaceful life that is truly sustainable to the human race. It does take time and wisdom to understand this. Make sense ?
At least to me, it is.
Why men marry bitches ? November 25, 2008
Posted by Karen in Book review, human relationships.Tags: bitches, marry, men, new books, relationships, Sherry Argov, women
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One wierd thought: why men like bitches, and why they are attracted to them ?
Somebody by the name of Sherry Argove wrote the book.
I read 2 books off by her and thought it was interesting. Maybe, I haven’t been reading and learning about how people react in relationships. All the while, I have been reading in my bee hive about making good and serious honey; about current affairs, about how to put my modest skills in place to make lives better. I’m somewhat an elfin and I love to play and have no shame for it…
but when it comes to understanding why men like women who sometimes are incapable is really an art. Maybe that is why people suffer broken or abnormal relationships that cause pain and misery later. Or maybe its just me being a little off old school when it comes to these matters. Or perhaps being a little more traditional in this is actually a progressive thought ?
Karen
